Sunday, April 17, 2011

Loose Morals

I work for this very nice, very giving catholic lady. Her and her husband are both on their second marriages, which is considered adultery by the Catholic Church. I believe they used to be excommunicated from that, but I don't think they are. She knows I'm a Mormon, has known others, has a book of Mormon in her home and likes to say funny things about our underwear, the church owning Safeway and Pepsi- all false. She jokes about us not celebrating certain holiday's. "What do you think we are?" are I said to her once, "Jehovah Witnesses?" It's all in good fun. I'm usually laughing.

Two conversations have happened recently. We were talking about families that have a lot of kids, and she mentioned Catholic's and Mormons. I told her the joke: Anyone who has a lot of kids is either Catholic, Mormon or not careful. She said that both of our religions have lots of kids for power. I'd never heard that one before! I said no, it's about the eternal nature of the family- of being with them for forever. She said, No, it's about power, but I believe in the eternal nature of the soul. As if that made families for forever. I didn't explain more, just left it.

Then Jason and I find out that some people we know who are very young are going to be parents. When I found out, I said "great, an unwed pregnancy!" I told them that Jason counseled them to get married. She then said I don't think that has to happen, do you? I was in shock! All the Catholic's I know, have been married before they have children and I don't think the Catholic church looks happily on that. They are pro-family and were anti birth control. They have told their parishioners to have a type of family home evening- a program that started with our church decades ago! I'm just in shock that even they have become comfortable with the ways of the world, with thinking that marriage does not make family life, that it is optional. It's even more funny because this mother who lived with her husband 3 years prior to marriage, got married when she found out she was pregnant!

Of course there are many reason's for this decline of righteous thinking, of ignoring God's laws and being OK with what society has been promoting. Today, after teaching about keeping the sabbath day holy to my primary kids I read them this scripture:

  • Doctrine and Covenants 59:9

    9 And that thou mayest more fully keep thyself unspotted from the world, thou shalt go to the house of prayer and offer up thy sacraments upon my holy day;

Perhaps this is one of the reason's people have stopped believing God's unchangeable laws, regardless of the times, is the lack of Sunday worship, of going to church and of keeping it holy, by resting from labors and causing no one else to work either as stated in Exodus 20:10. It is not just a "family day", as some call it. It is not a holiday, it is a holy day.

I know the media has a huge part in this also, but when we go to church we keep ourselves unspotted from the lies and sins of the world, because we are being taught truths and taking on us the shield of faith and the sword of His Spirit, which is the word of God!

As I continue to be in non-members home I continually as amazed as religious people, even those that go to church every Sunday, pray in poems, not from the heart, and shop on Sunday or engage in other practices that clearly taught against in the Bible.

I'm saddened by both Catholics and Mormon who are having fewer children, most of the having 2. I'm especially shocked by Mormons who do that who know The Plan of Salvation. My saying is this: "The Lord said multiply and replenish, not multiply and replace" People think they are sacrificing for having a 3 child, but that is still not replenishing both of you, just one and one replacement! Another woman I know says he mom says "5 or a note from your doctor!" Of course I understand health issues both the mother and the child, including mental health, infertility, etc, and I know this is coming from a woman who has no children, but that is the point. I want kids, but have not had the opportunity yet, to have children and I want them and there are people who can have them who don't. In my book, that isn't right.

A large Mormon family who I don't know that I've always wanted.

1 comment:

Rachel King. said...

Becky, You can still have that family that you yearn for so much. Seriously speaking try LDS adoptions program. I feel your pain and see where you came from but also understand that the choice of having only one, two or three kids and stop there is very personal and sacred between Heavenly Father and the couple, we are not in the position to say their choice is wrong, we do not know their hearts, circunstances, financial means and emotional ability to have more than what they have. The same way you felt bad when you were single and tought people were judging you and the same way you don't want people that don't know you to judge you for not having children Remember they don't know your personal situation just as you don't know their personal situation and the real reasons behind why. I love you and I truly hope you will one day hold and raise a child of your own. Trust in the lord and endure to the end even when it seems that his timing is not yours. You are loved!